[ebadudu]

Salaam alaykum,

I'm a muslim and planning on marrying a non-practicing christian. Will I have a problem finding a Imam to perform the Imam? Do you know of any interfaith couple? What should I expect from such an imam? I don't expect my future wife to convert to islam, but she's agreed that we can raise our children as muslims.

Cheers

[Mujahid E Musafir]

ebadudu, on 05 February 2010 - 11:57 PM, said:

Salaam alaykum,

I'm a muslim and planning on marrying a non-practicing christian. Will I have a problem finding a Imam to perform the Imam? Do you know of any interfaith couple? What should I expect from such an imam? I don't expect my future wife to convert to islam, but she's agreed that we can raise our children as muslims.

Cheers

Lemme ask you this: Are her words set in stone that you definitely WILL be able to raise your children as Muslims?

[Pomak]

Mujahid E Musafir, on 06 February 2010 - 02:59 PM, said:

Lemme ask you this: Are her words set in stone that you definitely WILL be able to raise your children as Muslims?

Thats not a shariah condition otherwise it would of been made haram because no one can know the future.

ebadudu you probably won't have too many issues as long as she isn't an atheist.

[ebadudu]

Mujahid E Musafir, on 05 February 2010 - 11:59 PM, said:

Lemme ask you this: Are her words set in stone that you definitely WILL be able to raise your children as Muslims?

We've talked about sending our kids to Quran school, me taking them to the mosque on fridays, and she's fine with it. But like the previous poster said, the future is not guaranteed.

[Pomak]

I am just curious, what will you do if/when your kid says (s)he has decided to "choose" to be a Christian rather than be Muslim?

I know of one such case here in my hood.

[Yalla_back]

You may think it's okay if she lets you raise your kids muslims but it's the little things which will ultimately destroy your family and marriage. Not only do you have to make sure she allows you to raise the kids as muslims but you have to make sure she doesn't want to Unmuslim Junk too. Top offender being celebrating Christmas.

First she'll rationalise that Christmas is about being "together" and loving each other. Next thing you know you'll have a christmass tree in your home and a papier maché Baby Jesus sitting underneath it.

[Pomak]

Yalla_back, on 06 February 2010 - 05:38 PM, said:

You may think it's okay if she lets you raise your kids muslims but it's the little things which will ultimately destroy your family and marriage. Not only do you have to make sure she allows you to raise the kids as muslims but you have to make sure she doesn't want to Unmuslim Junk too. Top offender being celebrating Christmas.

First she'll rationalise that Christmas is about being "together" and loving each other. Next thing you know you'll have a christmass tree in your home and a papier maché Baby Jesus sitting underneath it.

Settle, it seems he has chosen the course of action he is going with and its halal unless I am mistaken so lets leave it at that.

[what the heavens!]

ARGH. No one yell at me for this, but can the guys here please not forget that everytime a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman, a Muslim woman is without a husband? And no one say any stupid shiz about multiple wives. Non-Muslim women can marry whoever they want, but Muslim women have to marry Muslim men. So Muslim men marrying non-Muslim women is really unfair to Muslim women.

And I agree with Yalla-back's comment.

You know what I really support? Inter-racial marriages. But not interfaith marriages.

*walks away whistling*

[KnowledgeSeeker]

ebadudu, on 06 February 2010 - 04:57 AM, said:

I don't expect my future wife to convert to islam, but she's agreed that we can raise our children as muslims.

Walaikum Asalam

Allah Knows Best, but If you show her the way to Islam maybe she would InshAllah!

also have you tried asking a Imam?

[Pomak]

what the heavens!, on 06 February 2010 - 10:34 PM, said:

ARGH. No one yell at me for this, but can the guys here please not forget that everytime a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman, a Muslim woman is without a husband? And no one say any stupid shiz about multiple wives. Non-Muslim women can marry whoever they want, but Muslim women have to marry Muslim men. So Muslim men marrying non-Muslim women is really unfair to Muslim women.

And I agree with Yalla-back's comment.

You know what I really support? Inter-racial marriages. But not interfaith marriages.

*walks away whistling*

:thumbup:

[ebadudu]

KnowledgeSeeker, on 06 February 2010 - 07:57 AM, said:

Walaikum Asalam

Allah Knows Best, but If you show her the way to Islam maybe she would InshAllah!

also have you tried asking a Imam?

I haven't spoken to one yet, but I've read about Imams wanting the wife to accept islam. Now since she doesn't practice her beliefs, I think she'll accept Islam but I doubt that she'll practice.


Someone mentioned how unfair it is for a muslim man to marry a non-muslim woman and not vice versa. When I was looking for a wife, my first problem was that there wasn't that many muslim women with a similar racial background to mine (I am not from Asia). Second, was that from all the matrimonial sites that I went to 70% of the people on the sites were men. Now, I could've travelled back to my homeland to marry a muslim woman and come back to Canada. But I don't agree with that (because I prefer someone who's already here that I can relate to).


About my kid ending up Christian, I wouldn't like it, but there isn't much I can do about it. I know a lot of muslims who don't even practice and also has some Christians in my extended family. The only way I think I can influence my future kids is by practicing Islam more (so that they can learn from my example).

[r-z]

ebadudu, on 06 February 2010 - 02:40 PM, said:

I haven't spoken to one yet, but I've read about Imams wanting the wife to accept islam. Now since she doesn't practice her beliefs, I think she'll accept Islam but I doubt that she'll practice.

Dude, Imams are not scary people who yell haram haram. Just go find one in the masjid and if he indeed turns out to be scary - try another masjid.

[Yalla_back]

Also bare this in mind...

What happens if you die while your kids are young? do you really think your wife is going to bother raising them Islamically? or do you think after your death she will have basic rules like "no pork". Because i've seen stuff like this happen.

[sabrina]

ebadudu, on 06 February 2010 - 08:40 AM, said:

I think she'll accept Islam but I doubt that she'll practice.

sorry but... what's the point of that?

[Ishavemychesthair2]

what the heavens!, on 06 February 2010 - 06:34 AM, said:

ARGH. No one yell at me for this, but can the guys here please not forget that everytime a Muslim man marries a non-Muslim woman, a Muslim woman is without a husband? And no one say any stupid shiz about multiple wives. Non-Muslim women can marry whoever they want, but Muslim women have to marry Muslim men. So Muslim men marrying non-Muslim women is really unfair to Muslim women.

And I agree with Yalla-back's comment.

You know what I really support? Inter-racial marriages. But not interfaith marriages.

*walks away whistling*

because when a muslim woman won't compromise then it should be ok to marry someone outside of your religion.